In a span of 5 years I left organized religion, separated from my wife, fell into a deep depression and a horrible mental state.
I got evicted from a house I loved and had to sleep on my wife’s couch for 9 months. This was after our separation. I clawed and scratched to get myself back together and now here I am.
I guess its ground zero for me. Anyone else out there going through challenging circumstances where everything fell apart and now its just you and this fragile existence your living?
If I can say there is a blessing in all this, it’s the fact that starting over, no matter how uncomfortable it may be, may just be the best thing that ever happened to you.
The key is your state of mind and using it to tap in to this resource you have that’s always been available to you. However, with things like jobs, careers, relationships, and children, you’ve put it on the back burner.
You’ve actually always been using this resource but never intentionally. Because it was free and always on a default setting you have never valued it and what it could actually do for you to make your life so much easier.
In fact, its so easy to use that one of the main reasons its unused is because many think that using this resource to there advantage is too good to be true.
When you were a kid, you constantly tapped in to this resource. Especially if you were an only child. Quite possibly while your mom was in the kitchen, and your dad was at work, you either played in your room or outside by yourself. Do you remember how entertained you were able to make yourself?
I was a huge wrestling fan. My mom would by me wrestling action figures for Christmas and Birthdays. I would actually reenact wrestling programs I saw on TV.
Sometimes I would take this big teddy bear I had. Ernie. I would have wrestling matches with him for hours. Pretty soon he would get holes that I would beg my mom to stitch up so we could keep on wrestling. We had fans to entertain.
I won’t go into who won those wrestling matches for the sake of protecting myself from the onslaught of judgement. However, looking back I’m amazed at the creativity I had to make something out of nothing.
I had no brothers and sisters and went through stretches of times when TV got boring. It was before the wave of video games. It came down to just me, my love for the squared circle, and my most lethal resource. My imagination.
It was free. I took advantage of it. I suppose if technology as we have it now, was back then, my mom would have probably recorded some of those classic matches I had with Ernie, shared them to her social media, and quite possibly would have gone viral.
Albert Einstein once said, “Imagination is the preview of life’s coming attractions”.
Answer this. How did you get the information from your brain to paper that created that love letter you sent to that childhood crush?
You were probably shy and inexperienced and too scared to just go up to this person to ask to go steady.
So in your mind you created scenarios that were attached to your feelings and that combination poured from your mind that directed the pen in your hand to write all this gushy, mushy, love stuff.
If you wrote this letter the night before school, you probably were so confident that you would have this happily ever after scenario in your mind, that the possibilities of them not liking you never arose.
As you get to school the next day, still brimming with confidence and having a plan that you’d simply walk up to this person, give them your letter, and be joined with bliss, the moment you saw the target of your affection, you immediately came down with the feelings of nervousness that some would call butterflies.
Then a cold reality could possibly set in. What if I give he or she this letter, and they say no? What if they don’t even like me? What if they share this sacred letter with classmates and they make fun of me?
Fear and anxiety sets in. You either push through that and muster up enough courage to give the person the letter, or you tear it up and throw it in the trash.
The only person who knows all of this is you. Well, unless you gave the letter to that person and they kept it to themselves.
If all they did was simply read the letter and kept it to themselves, it would be a big chance they probably said no to your invitation of steadiness.
But if they read the letter, came back to you, and said yes, in most cases, the two of you and a select group of your close friends would know. Or you’d just simply tell everybody in your state of euphoric happiness.
The point of all this, is to give an example of the most important resource we have as human beings. Our imagination. It could be used to great benefits or great disasters.
It could be used to write that book that could change our lives for the better, or it could be used to devise a scheme to rob a bank that sooner or later, we’d be apprehended for. That has a much more negative change in our life. The loss of freedom.
Recipes for delicious dishes, techniques to fix cars, combinations of colors that create different visions when used in paintings all came from the imagination.
The way a man proposed to his wife started in his mind. Careers and opportunities used to create incomes started in the imagination.
On the negative end of the spectrum, if a person has challenges in there relationships, they replay bad encounters over and over in there minds.
They think of ways they should have responded during arguments that they didn’t say while in front of the person they had the problem with.
They can create feelings of unworthiness which inflames a low self-esteem.
A person could want a job or position in a company they seek to work for and talk themselves out of simply filling out that application or creating a resume. These too are creations of their imaginations.
Because freewill is involved in our lives, we have the freedom to do what we want and how we do it. But the what and the how is fueled by the thoughts we produce which are creations of our imagination.
It could be our most blessed gift or our most treacherous curse.
As I’m sharing this information with you, I’m a witness to the blessing of that gift as well as the treachery of that curse.
During the past months, time has went by that the majority of it I’ve spent alone. During this time alone, I’ve taken advantage of reflecting on a new direction for my life.
I finally got sick and tired of being sick and tired. I finally got the courage to not be a victim of a wrecked marriage but a liberated soul with a new chapter in my life.
I shook the bitterness and anger in my heart and picked my pen up and started to express myself that ultimately turned into a book.
Then something happened to me. The universe began to show me things about myself to help discover a gift and a purpose.
If you’re a religious person and something similar happened to you, it would be that “come to Jesus moment” people have often described.
It actually happened to me while I was listening to motivational speakers and preachers who were expressing the value of identifying your gifts.
What ever your spiritual or religious beliefs are, one thing that we all have in common are gifts. No, we don’t all have the same gifts but we all have gifts.
There is one thing we can all do at our best with the least amount of effort.
Some are writers. Some are cooks. Some are teachers. Whatever your thing is, what ever THAT thing is that you possess and can put your own unique stamp on, that’s your gift.
I’m a writer. I use my imagination and memory for words and expressions that are designed to do everything from entertain, educate, draw out emotions or simply create humor.
Through life we’ve acquired responsibilities. It started with school. When your young, school is fun but as you progress in grade levels it becomes more work oriented. Test and exams have to be passed. Reports have to be turned in on books we were assigned to read.
We learn parts of history, variations of math and science, and other things that may or may not be useful after we graduate from high school. Then were unleased in to a cold, unpredictable but sometimes beautiful world.
Somewhere along the line two things happened to us. One, we stopped using our imaginations that brought us some much joy and company as children.
Two, because we stopped using our imaginations, we’ve found ourselves further and further separated from our gifts.
Then relationships, children, careers, and 40 plus years have passed and you struggle to figure out what the hell just happened.
Possibly you made a few right decisions and were blessed to learn a few skills that brought you anywhere from decent to great incomes when you were in your late teens and early twenties.
However for most of us, struggling with finances and other areas of our lives because of decisions we’ve previously made, can have adverse effects on your mental health and well-being. Life happens.
The cool part is that its not what happens to you, but what you do about it.
For myself, I created “The Life After 30” program.
I realized that the decisions I’ve made in the past, affected my current present in many ways.
Some good and some bad. I also realized and learned that if I tweak a few things and changed my mind set, my life will have a dramatic change for the better.
Life after 30 doesn’t mean life after the age of 30. It’s taking 30 days to reprogram your mind and shift it from lack to abundance.
Get off the default setting that its currently on and move the needle to positive intentions.
Many of us go through life and accept life as it is. Bad relationships, low finances, horrible job with a boss who isn’t even qualified to be in charge of himself, let alone another human being.
Our popular go to statement that justifies this mediocre life is, “It is what It is. Then we leave it at that.
To change all that, set a goal, focus on what you want, target a destination, and move in that direction. Never, ever stop until you reach that destination.
Take 30 days and remove yourself from social media, negative company, and bad influences. Then replace that with an exercise regimen, a positive change in your diet. Read and listen to personal development materials, affirmations, and intentional positive thinking.
You create your own programs but that’s where it gets tricky.
Depending on your age, you can have a life time full of patterns that don’t serve you. Habits you’ve acquired as a result of stress and life traumas.
These patterns have to be broken and new mental paths have to be created but those new paths can only be created with consistency, persistence and a positive mind set.
After coming across an Earl Nightingale video on YouTube called “The Strangest Secret”, it turned the wheels in my mind and set in motion a chain of events that changed my life.
I set a financial goal, a new career path, and spiritual disciplines that were designed to tie my gift with a purpose that not only would be a benefit to myself, but to all in the universe.
I turned my goals into personal affirmations that I say in the morning when I wake, at night before bed and many times during the course of my day.
I monitor the thoughts in my mind and if negativity arises, I simply redirect those thoughts to something I want instead of something that was, or don’t want.
I focus on the future and what will be, instead of negative experiences that weighed on me and ultimately crushed all possibilities for abundance.
It was hard work, but I knew if I were to get through those 30 days consecutively with new thought patterns, a healthy body, and positive intentions, my life will be forever changed.
Its all on you. You hold the key. You have the resource. You have the most valuable resource in the whole universe. Your mind and using that imagination that you’ve drifted so far from.
Set a goal. Identify your gift and challenge yourself for thirty consecutive days to think about only what you want. Believe its already yours and with consistency it has to be transferred into your physical possession.
Use meditation to quite the thoughts and ease stress. Then think. Don’t try to think, just let it happen. Through repetition and believing in your own power, you can attract all you need.
Your plan doesn’t have to be definite at first but your goal does. Learn the art of patience and flexibility. Understand that your more than worthy of whatever it is you desire.
You probably wont get rich in 30 days but you will definitely begin to think like the 1% of individuals who are. That will attract the ideas for your goals and dreams to come to fruition.
It’s only 30 days. You have nothing to lose but everything to gain.
As a side note, its best to under take this challenge as a personal one. You don’t have to advertise what your doing and tell everyone about this new found direction your changing your life towards.
The worst thing a person can do is share their big dreams and aspirations to small-minded individuals.
More than likely, all your friends and family are living on that default life setting. This process is for everyone but seems to be hiding in plain view.
Use it for yourself first and when results come all your friends and family will notice anyway. Protect your energy and cultivate your mind to produce the results you want.